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Stalking is Not Romantic: Dispelling the Myths From Movies and TV

Stalking is Not Romantic: Dispelling the Myths From Movies and TV

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If you’ve scrolled social media in the past few years, you’ve probably seen posts about “the creepy stalker who’s actually hot” or jokes about obsessive behavior being “romantic.” Shows like You, popular books, and other “thrilling” media often present stalking as clever, charming, or even desirable – something to root for, or something that proves a character’s love.

It’s easy to see why this framing is so popular. Drama sells. A story told from the perspective of the person doing the stalking can make it feel thrilling, funny, or romantic. We often idealize the thought of someone being so in love with us that they become obsessed. But here’s the truth: stalking is never cute, never harmless, and never a sign of love.

Stalking is About Power and Control, Not Affection

 Romanticized portrayals ignore the core reality: stalking is a form of abuse. It’s about control, intimidation, and fear. It can include repeated unwanted contact, monitoring online activity, showing up uninvited, making threats, or manipulating someone’s sense of safety. The person being stalked is not “flattered” – they are being targeted and violated.

When media frames stalking as romantic, it erases the harm survivors experience. It can make stalking seem like a normal part of courtship or “persistent flirting,” which contributes to the dangerous idea that obsessive behavior is acceptable in relationships.

Survivors of stalking often face anxiety, sleep disruption, hypervigilance, and long-term trauma. They may have to change routines, move homes, change jobs, or limit social connections just to feel safe. Unlike on TV, there is no comedic relief or neatly tied-up ending. The danger is real, ongoing, and sometimes escalates to sexual assault or other forms of violence.

Stalking can also isolate survivors. Friends and family may minimize the behavior by saying things like: “Oh, they just like you.” Which leaves the survivor unsupported. Media that romanticizes stalking reinforces this harmful misunderstanding.

The Numbers Are Alarming

Stalking is far more common than most people realize. According to the National Center for Victims of Crime and The Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center:

  • 1 in 5 women and 1 in 10 men will experience stalking in their lifetime.
  • Nearly 75% of stalking victims know their stalker – a partner, ex-partner, family member, or acquaintance.
  • About 1 in 5 victims report being physically harmed by their stalker, and many more experience psychological trauma.

These statistics show that stalking is not rare, and it often comes from people survivors know, not strangers lurking in the shadows. Romanticized portrayals in media hide this truth.

Reality of Abuse

Consider the story of “Anna” (name changed for privacy), a college student who started dating someone who seemed attentive and charming. At first, she appreciated the attention, but soon he began monitoring her phone, showing up unannounced at classes and social events, and pressuring her to share passwords.

What may have seemed “cute” or “persistent” at the beginning quickly became controlling and frightening. Anna had to move apartments, involve campus security, and rely on a support network to safely set boundaries. The experience left her anxious and hypervigilant for years.

Anna’s story is far from unique – it illustrates how stalking can start subtly and escalate, and how it profoundly impacts daily life. It’s a reality that no movie plot should ever romanticize.

Why Media Representation Matters

When shows or movies glamorize stalking, they influence social norms and perceptions. Young audiences, in particular, may start to believe that obsessive behavior is a sign of passion or dedication rather than abuse. This can make it harder for survivors to recognize that what’s happening to them is wrong and for bystanders to take it seriously.

Stalking should be framed as the serious, harmful behavior it is. Showing the psychological toll on survivors, emphasizing consent and boundaries, and calling out obsessive behavior as abuse (even if it seems “cute” or “fun” in a fictional context) helps dismantle the romanticized myth. At the end of the day, humanizing stalkers (or giving them cute, relatable traits) side-lines victims’ experiences.

Awareness, education, and empathy are key. If someone discloses stalking, listen, believe them, and connect them with resources. Normalizing healthy boundaries and mutual respect in relationships is one of the most powerful ways to prevent stalking and support survivors.

Stalking is not a sign of love. It is a violation of trust, privacy, and safety. It is never casual, never cute, and never acceptable. By rejecting the romanticized portrayals in media and centering survivor experiences, we can help others recognize the real-life harm stalking causes and create safer communities.

If you or someone you know is experiencing stalking, support is available. You don’t have to face it alone.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

Written by Anniston Weber

This project was supported by subgrant number 25-VAWA-07 awarded by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program for the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice’s STOP Formula Grant Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of the Kansas Governor or the U.S. Department of Justice.

“I Would Never Let That Happen to Me”: The Dangerous Myth We Tell Ourselves About Abuse

“I Would Never Let That Happen to Me”: The Dangerous Myth We Tell Ourselves About Abuse

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“I would never get into an abusive relationship. I would never put up with that.”

I recently overheard this statement while attending a conference. It was said casually, confidently, and without hesitation – and it made me deeply uncomfortable.

Not because it was said with cruelty or malice, but because of how normal it sounded. The person who said it truly believed it. And in that moment, I realized just how many people likely think the same way.

That discomfort stayed with me – not just because the statement was incorrect, but because it reflects one of the most common and harmful myths about abuse. The belief that people who experience abuse somehow choose it, fail to prevent it, or “allow” it to happen. This mindset may feel empowering or reassuring to the person holding it, but it does real harm to survivors.

Statements like this reveal how deeply rooted victim-blaming still is in our culture, even when it’s unintentional. They suggest that abuse is something that only happens to “other” people – people who missed obvious warning signs, made poor decisions, or weren’t careful enough.

And that belief couldn’t be further from the truth.

The Illusion of Control

At the heart of statements like “I would never let that happen to me,” is the belief that abuse is something we can fully control – something that only happens if someone makes the “wrong” choices.

This belief offers a sense of safety: If I’m smart enough, confident enough, aware enough, it won’t happen to me. But that sense of safety is built on a false premise.

Abuse is not caused by a survivor’s lack of judgment. It is caused by someone else’s choice to use power and control.

No one enters a relationship expecting to be harmed. People enter relationships expecting connection, care, and mutual respect. Abusers do not announce themselves. They do not start relationships by being cruel, threatening, or controlling. If they did, very few people would stay.

This illusion of control also shows up in how people talk about leaving abusive relationships. There is a common belief that if a relationship is truly abusive, the survivor would “just leave.” But leaving is often one of the most difficult – and dangerous – parts of an abusive relationship.

On average, it takes a survivor seven times to leave an abusive partner permanently. If leaving were simple, quick, or safe, people would not return again and again. The reality is that abuse creates fear, confusion, and very real barriers to leaving.

Survivors may still love their partner. They may remember who that person was at the beginning of the relationship – or who they are during the “good” moments. Many rely on their partner financially, emotionally, or for housing. Some share children. Others have been isolated from friends and family over time. Leaving can mean risking stability, safety, or survival.

Remember that, generally speaking, abusive relationships do not begin with outright abuse. Survivors do not fall in love with someone who hurt them, they fell in love with someone who, at one point, felt caring, supportive, or safe. Letting go of that connection, even when harm is present, is not a failure. It is human.

The belief that people “stay because they want to” ignores the reality of trauma, manipulation, fear, and attachment. It simplifies a complex situation into a judgment – and in doing so, it shifts blame away from the person causing harm.

If awareness alone were enough to stop abuse, survivors wouldn’t struggle so deeply to leave. And if leaving were easy, no one would need support to do it.

How Abuse Actually Begins

Abusive relationships almost never begin with abuse. They often begin with charm, attention, and affection. An abusive partner may be thoughtful, funny, generous, and emotionally attentive. They may make someone feel seen, chosen, or deeply loved – sometimes more intensely than anyone ever has before.

This is not accidental.

Trust is built first. Emotional bonds are formed first. Only then does control begin to show itself – often slowly and subtly.

What may later be recognized as red flags often don’t feel alarming in the moment. Jealousy may be framed as care. Isolation may be framed as protectiveness. Criticism may be disguised as concern or “help.” Boundaries are crossed gradually, not all at once.

By the time behavior clearly crosses into abuse, many survivors are already emotionally invested, financially dependent, isolated from support systems, or afraid of what might happen if they leave.

This doesn’t mean they “allowed” abuse. It means they were targeted by someone skilled at manipulation.

Why Hindsight Fails Survivors

It is easy to look at abusive relationships from the outside (or after they’ve ended) and say, “I would have left,” or “I would have seen the signs.”

But hindsight is not reality.

Survivors often do recognize red flags eventually. Many try to set boundaries. Many try to fix things, communicate, or de-escalate. Many leave and return multiple times, not because they don’t understand what’s happening, but because they want to believe the person they love will change.

Judging these experiences from the outside ignores the complexity of abuse and oversimplifies a situation that is anything but simple.

How This Belief Fuels Victim-Blaming

Let’s call this type of mindset what it really is: victim-blaming.

The belief that “I would never let that happen to me” doesn’t exist in a vacuum. It is one of the main reasons victim-blaming is so widespread.

If we truly accept that abuse can happen to anyone – that it can happen to people who are smart, cautious, educated, and confident – then we also have to accept something uncomfortable: it could happen to us.

And that reality is frightening.

For many people, it feels safer to believe that survivors are somehow different. That they missed something obvious. That they made a mistake. That they stayed too long. That they “allowed” it.

By finding fault in the survivor, people create distance between themselves and the possibility of being harmed. This process (often unconscious) is a way of protecting themselves from fear.

If they did something wrong, then I will be safe as long as I do everything right.

This is how survivors get “othered.” They are treated as exceptions instead of evidence. Their experiences are dissected for mistakes rather than understood as harm done to them.

But blaming survivors does not make abuse less likely. It only makes survivors less likely to speak up.

The Real Harm of Victim-Blaming

When responsibility is shifted onto survivors, several things happen:

  • Survivors internalize shame and self-blame
  • People experiencing abuse hesitate to reach out for help
  • Communities become less safe and less supportive
  • Abusers are shielded from accountability

Survivors already ask themselves painful questions like Why didn’t I leave sooner? or Why didn’t I see it earlier? Hearing others insist they would “never allow” abuse reinforces the idea that survivors failed in some way.

That message doesn’t prevent abuse. It protects abusers.

The Reality: No One Is Immune

Abuse does not discriminate based on intelligence, education, confidence, age, gender, or background. People who are strong, informed, and self-assured can still experience abuse – because abuse is not about weakness.

It is about power.

Believing we are immune to abuse doesn’t make us safer. It makes us less prepared to recognize it and less compassionate when others experience it.

A healthier, more honest belief is not “I would never let that happen to me,” but rather:

  • “Abuse can happen to anyone.”
  • “People don’t choose to be abused.”
  • “Survivors deserve support, not judgment.”

Changing the Way We Talk About Abuse

If we want to truly support survivors and create safer communities, we must challenge the myths that make us feel comfortable at their expense.

That starts with examining our own assumptions, resisting the urge to blame, and remembering that abuse is not a failure of awareness or strength is the result of someone choosing to harm and control another person.

No one ever thinks it’s going to happen to them.

And when it does, what they need most is understanding, belief, and support.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

Written by Anniston Weber

This project was supported by subgrant number 25-VAWA-07 awarded by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program for the Office on Violence Against Women, U.S. Department of Justice’s STOP Formula Grant Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this publication/program/exhibition are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of the Kansas Governor or the U.S. Department of Justice.

"Ask An Advocate" - interview with Weekend Shelter Advocate Kady Mae Stevens

“Ask An Advocate” – interview with Weekend Shelter Advocate Kady Mae Stevens

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For the past 3.5 years, Kady Stevens has been one of the steady, compassionate forces keeping our shelter running through the weekend hours – a time when needs can be high and resources across the community are limited. As a Weekend Shelter Advocate, Kady brings deep empathy, patience, and a genuine passion for helping people who’ve experienced hardship. She’s the kind of advocate who meets survivors exactly where they are, offering comfort, guidance, and understanding in moments that may feel overwhelming.

Kady is also deeply involved in the community, always finding ways to connect people with support, spread awareness, and build a culture of care. Her commitment to showing up – not just for survivors, but for the community as a whole – makes her an invaluable part of our team. Her work is driven by heart, and it shows in every interaction.

This is our final Ask an Advocate feature of the year, but we’re already looking forward to continuing the series next year and shining an even brighter spotlight on the incredible staff who make Options what it is.

Now, let’s get into Kady’s interview!

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

 Kady Mae Stevens, Weekend Shelter Advocate, 3.5 years

What does a “day in the life” of your role actually look like, and how does it change from day to day?

 A lot of different things can happen on the weekends. So coming into work, you never really know what to expect. There could be moving of rooms that needs to happen. There could be a survivor needing transport somewhere. The hotline could be ringing off the hook. Children may want to play. Survivors may just want to chat. It’s always a toss up. It keeps things fresh though.

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

That “I am just a babysitter.” Nothing irks me more than when I tell people I work at the shelter and they say that back.

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

 I would say the fact that the shelter is a home. It’s a shelter that is actually a HOME. Who can really be comfortable in an institution type setting? We want to provide home with safety.

What’s the hardest part of saying goodbye to a survivor who’s moving on?

The hardest part of being a shelter advocate is when a survivor moves out and becomes a community survivor. They then get to work with the community advocates over at the office and your contact becomes much more limited with them. It’s always exciting though when someone calls the hotline on the weekend after they have moved out, because then you get to talk to them!

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

When a see a survivor thriving out in the community. Whether they are still in shelter or not. But when I see them at work, or downtown, or enjoying time with their children. Seeing them take back their life is so rewarding.

What’s a behind-the-scenes moment you’re proud of but few people would ever know about?

When I saw a survivor in public, but I was with my family. The survivor still came up and gave me a hug. No words were exchanged, just a quick look into each other’s eyes. That’s all that was needed. When my family asked who that was, I said “I have no idea, they must have thought I was someone else.”

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

Probably diving into one of my other jobs or doom-scrolling.

How do you remind yourself to rest when you feel like there’s always more to do?

 As long as it’s not a life or death situation, it can wait.

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

 A few select co-workers who understand what it can be like sometimes. And my husband. He reminds me that what I am doing is for the good.

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

I like to play my worship music from my computer when I am working on documentation. It helps bring me back to me.

How do you celebrate even the smallest successes?

Really just by smiling and knowing that a difference was made, no matter how small.

When did you know that advocacy work was the right fit for you?

I’ve always been a helper. I don’t think I ever realized this is right for me, because it really has always been a part of me. I just have a more focused area of where I am helping.

If your younger self could see you now, what would they be most proud of?

That I don’t judge people for who they are or what they do.

What’s one thing you wish every survivor could hear and truly believe?

That they are worthy of a full and beautiful life.

What motivates you to show up on the really hard days?

 That someone is relying on me. That it’s not about me when it’s time to work. It’s about who needs my help.

What’s your go-to “pick me up” song or snack at work?

Popcorn with a lot of pepper and pink Himalayan salt!!!!

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Understanding, flexible, and listener

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

I am biologically an only child but I have 7 brothers and sisters.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.

"Ask An Advocate" - interview with Community Advocate Krystal Rodriguez

“Ask An Advocate” – interview with Community Advocate Krystal Rodriguez

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If you’ve ever crossed paths with Krystal Rodriguez, you know she brings a spark with her everywhere she goes. As one of our Community Advocates based in the Colby office, Krystal has spent nearly a year pouring her passion, empathy, and fierce dedication into supporting survivors across northwest Kansas. Her fiery personality isn’t just for show – it fuels her drive to advocate, to stand beside survivors in their hardest moments, and to ensure they feel heard, believed, and cared for.

Krystal’s work in Colby is vital. Community Advocates often meet survivors where resources are limited, distances are long, and support systems can feel far away. Krystal shows up with determination, heart, and a deep commitment to helping people rebuild their sense of safety and strength. Her compassion cuts through crisis, and her presence brings warmth to moments that can otherwise feel overwhelming.

As we continue celebrating the incredible humans behind the work we do, we’re thrilled to highlight Krystal and the powerful impact she’s already made in her first year.
Now, let’s get into her interview! 

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

Krystal Rodriguez.  Community Adv.  1 year in Dec

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

It is not a scary thing to help others.  Help looks different in many ways!

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

The weight that survivors carry daily due to their traumas from DV or SA  

What’s the hardest part of saying goodbye to a survivor who’s moving on?

That you won’t get to personally witness the rest of their growth and gains after they no longer are in need of our services 

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

Seeing a survivor, beginning to see their self-worth.   

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

I enjoy a silent trip home. No music, or phone calls. I reflect on my day in my mind the whole way home, so when I get out of my car it all gets left n there until I leave for work the next morning.

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

My Pitbull Lady and spending time with my kids

What’s something you’ve learned about yourself because of this job?

It is ok to not have an answer at that given moment! Have fun with some research. 

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

My plants(many), and my betta fish.  I talk to them all!

How do you celebrate even the smallest successes?

Little victory dances or random outburst of excitement in my office!

What’s the most unexpected lesson a client or coworker has taught you?

You can’t truly help anyone who doesn’t want to be helped.  

When did you know that advocacy work was the right fit for you?

When meeting one of my first clients.  I shed tears with her as she told me her story. I wasn’t crying only for her horrific abuse, but because even through all the pain she had endured, I could still see the light and desire she had to want to grow and get away.  She had not given up in her faith of a life free of the pain away from her abuser.  I saw the potential growth she still had in her eyes to become her best version for herself, for her and her children. That’s when I knew I was in the right line of work!  Where even broken crayons color the best pictures and I was honored to get to help be a part of letting her see her true reflection! 

If your younger self could see you now, what would they be most proud of?

That I am a Hype Woman for survivors who want to Unapologetically take back their Personal Power and LIVE the best versions of their life!

What’s one thing you wish every survivor could hear and truly believe?

You matter, how you feel counts and NO you are not alone!

What motivates you to show up on the really hard days?

That today maybe the day that me simply just being present could change the existence of another person in need of help! 

What’s your go-to “pick me up” song or snack at work?

Dr Pepper & peach rings

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Connected, Judge-free, compassionate

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

I enjoy playing in my garden and yard projects!

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.

"Ask An Advocate" - interview with Assistant Shelter Coordinator Heather LaPorte

“Ask An Advocate” – interview with Assistant Shelter Coordinator Heather LaPorte

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When you think of someone who truly embodies dedication and growth, Heather immediately comes to mind. Over the past three years, Heather has worn many hats at Options – from Overnight Advocate to Transition Advocate, and now, Assistant Shelter Coordinator. Each role has given her a deeper understanding of what survivors need and how to best support them as they rebuild their lives.

Heather’s experience across so many areas of shelter work gives her a unique perspective and a calm confidence that those around her deeply appreciate. She’s the person who jumps in wherever she’s needed, whether that means helping a survivor get settled, supporting staff during busy moments, or finding creative solutions when challenges arise.

Her compassion and steady leadership have made her a cornerstone of our shelter team. Heather brings both heart and skill to everything she does, ensuring the people we serve feel safe, supported, and empowered every step of the way.

As we continue our “Ask an Advocate” series, we’re proud to highlight Heather’s journey and celebrate the incredible work she does each day.

Now, let’s get into Heather’s interview! 

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

Hi, I am Heather LaPorte. I have worked at Options for three years. My first year at Options I worked overnights. That time consisted of lots of cleaning and late-night talks with survivors. My second year as the Transition Advocate, I got to help launch our Rapid Rehousing Program. It has been absolutely life changing for survivors. As of two weeks ago, I assumed the Assistant Shelter Coordinator position. This role requires more administrative type duties while providing support to staff and survivors.

What do you believe is the most important aspect of your job as an advocate?

As an advocate I wear many hats that I think are all equally important. But if there is one thing I hope survivors take with them when they leave shelter is a sound understanding of healthy boundaries. Boundaries are the foundation for personal well-being and healthy relationships. This creates a sense of safety and trust in all areas of life.

What are some of the key challenges you face in your role, and how do you address them?

 Most survivors that enter our shelter services have been through hell. They arrive unsure and scared of what they have been through, and an unknown future. My goal is to help survivors become self-reliant and be able to express their needs without feeling unworthy or like a burden.

Is there a particular service or program offered by Options that you find especially impactful or meaningful? If so, why?

Youth are having conversations about consent and are more aware of the effects of trauma than I was at their age. Although I hate this is even a thing it gives me hope for the future generations. Option’s community awareness and education programs for our youth will ripple through time, shaping stronger, healthier, and a more compassionate community.

What has been your favorite training or professional development program you’ve attended/received since working with Options? What did you learn?

In August I attended A Million Moments for Maternal Mortality Prevention Conference aimed at addressing physical and mental health, substance use, and intimate partner violence. Many women fear reaching out because of stigma and shame and are losing their lives because of it. This conference reinforced my belief that we need to be the change we want to see. With compassion we can ask the right questions and focus on ways to improve the outcomes and reduce preventable maternal deaths. “The best way to help a child is to help their mother.”  And agencies across the state are partnering up to do just that.

How do you practice self-care and prevent burnout, given the emotional intensity of the work?

 My self-care looks different daily. Somedays I need a walk in nature. Other days, I need to lay down. I enjoy my plants and gardening. I like to bake, have a marble collection, and a room full of crafty projects to work on. Quality time with family and taking time off are mandatory.

If your younger self could see you now, what would they be most proud of?

That I have kept my fire, belief in possibility, and gratitude throughout the best and the worst times.

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

Most days I can leave work at the door. On the days I can’t, I will sit in a dark quiet room for a while.

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

My two favorite artists to listen to at work are Prince and Rainbow Kitten Surprise. McDonalds and cake can get me through anything.

What motivates you to show up on the really hard days?

Each day, I choose to show up for myself, trusting that my presence and actions can make a positive impact in someone’s life.

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Autonomy. Boundaries, Compassion.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.

"Ask An Advocate" - interview with Overnight Shelter Advocate René Tully Horton

“Ask An Advocate” – interview with Overnight Shelter Advocate René Tully Horton

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When most of the world is winding down for the night, our Overnight Shelter Advocate, René Tully Horton, is just getting started.

The overnight shift is a unique and vital part of what keeps Options running – it’s the part of the heartbeat that never stops. While the rest of the world sleeps, survivors in shelter often find it’s the quiet hours that bring up the most reflection, emotion, or need for connection. That’s where René steps in – providing calm reassurance, safety, and understanding in those moments when it’s needed most.

As an Overnight Advocate, René handles everything from late-night crisis calls to ensuring shelter operations run smoothly until morning. But more than that, she’s there for survivors who just need to talk –  the ones who can’t sleep because of what they’ve endured, or who feel safest opening up when the world outside is still. Her compassion and steady presence make those long hours meaningful, turning darkness into a time for healing and hope.

As we continue our “Ask an Advocate” series, we’re taking time to highlight and celebrate the incredible staff members who make Options the safe, supportive place it is. Our advocates (like René) are the heart of what we do, and we couldn’t be more grateful for their dedication.

Now, let’s get into René’s interview!

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

René Tully Horton, overnight shelter advocate, 1 year. 

What does a “day in the life” of your role actually look like, and how does it change from day to day?

You never know what to expect. Pray for the best and be prepared for the worst!

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

We don’t just sit around and wait for the phone to ring. We spend most of the time being someone to lean on and share stories.

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

How our night can go from zero to 100 in a flash!

What’s the hardest part of saying goodbye to a survivor who’s moving on?

Most likely not seeing them again, it’s like losing a friend.

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

Seeing a woman who has been broken into a thousand pieces transition back into the community and have their own home.

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

Talking to my daughters or sisters/sister-in-law and brothers.

How do you remind yourself to rest when you feel like there’s always more to do?

That’s funny, my body will literally fall into bed!

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

My coworkers.

What’s something you’ve learned about yourself because of this job?

That I am more resilient than I give myself credit for.

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

The best moments are seeing my grandson and granddaughter’s pics. They always make me smile.

How do you celebrate even the smallest successes?

I smile and pay it forward. Sometimes all a person needs to hear is something nice or hold a door open for someone (those days are unfortunately disappearing).

What’s the most unexpected lesson a client or coworker has taught you?

Listen with care and compassion and keep my mouth shut!

When did you know that advocacy work was the right fit for you?

When I witnessed a survivor begin to heal.

What’s one thing you wish every survivor could hear and truly believe?

That they are loved, and not alone. EVER!

What motivates you to show up on the really hard days?

Just being there and having someone know they have a true shoulder to lean on.

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Trustworthy, kind and safe.

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

I owned my own Harley Davidon FXDL and still have the MC endorsement on my Driver’s license.  Maybe a few tattoos. 😊

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governo

"Ask an Advocate" - interview with Executive Director Jennifer Hecker

“Ask an Advocate” – interview with Executive Director Jennifer Hecker

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When it comes to dedication, few people embody it quite like our Executive Director, Jennifer. For the past 10 years, Jennifer has been a driving force at Options – though her journey began long before stepping into the role of Executive Director. She first joined Options as a volunteer, learning the heart of advocacy from the ground up. Over the years, she’s worn many hats, from advocate to leader, and her passion for supporting survivors has only grown stronger along the way.

While much of Jennifer’s work now happens behind the scenes – managing grants, overseeing programs, and ensuring the organization continues to grow – her roots as an advocate are at the center of everything she does. She’s the voice of Options in the community, the steady hand guiding our mission forward, and a constant source of support for staff and survivors alike.

Her decade of service is a testament to her compassion, perseverance, and commitment to creating a safer, stronger community for everyone.

Domestic Violence Awareness Month may have concluded, but we are still showing our gratitude for our amazing staff! Stay tuned in the coming weeks for more “Ask an Advocate” interviews. 

Now, let’s get into Jennifer’s interview!

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

I’m Jennifer Hecker, Executive Director of OPTIONS. I started here as a volunteer in 2015 and became Executive Director in 2017, so I’ve been with the organization for nearly a decade now and in leadership for about eight years. Starting as a volunteer really shaped my understanding of our work from the ground up.

What does a “day in the life” of your role actually look like, and how does it change from day to day?

I like to say “It’s never the same day twice at OPTIONS,” which is both challenging and energizing. I might start the morning reviewing grant applications and budget reports, then shift to meeting with our staff about complex cases. By afternoon, I could be presenting to community partners about our services, and end the day responding to a crisis situation or supporting staff through a difficult case. What remains constant is being available for my team and ensuring our survivors receive the individualized support they deserve.

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

People often think my role is primarily administrative – managing budgets and writing reports. While those are important parts of the work, much of what I do is about creating the conditions for healing to happen. I’m constantly thinking about how our policies, our physical spaces, even our tone of voice reflects the dignity that every survivor deserves. It’s about ensuring that every interaction honors people’s humanity.

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

They’d probably be surprised by how much laughter happens here. We use humor as a way to process difficult emotions and build resilience – both for survivors and staff. It’s not about making light of trauma, but about finding moments of joy and connection even in the midst of pain. Healing doesn’t happen in somber silence; it often happens through authentic human connection, including shared moments of lightness.

What’s the hardest part of saying goodbye to a survivor who’s moving on?

The hardest part is the transition from being someone they could count on to trusting that they have internalized the strength they always had. There’s this beautiful moment when someone realizes they don’t need us anymore – that they’ve reclaimed their power and voice. It’s exactly what we work toward, but it can be bittersweet knowing our chapter in their journey is closing, even as we celebrate their growth.

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

When a survivor tells us they’ve started dreaming about their future again – not just surviving day to day, but actually making plans. Or when someone who once couldn’t make eye contact walks into our office with their shoulders back, speaking their truth with confidence. These moments remind me that healing isn’t just about safety; it’s about people reclaiming their whole selves.

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

I have a 10-minute drive home that I use intentionally. I’ll put on music that matches my mood – sometimes it’s something peaceful, usually it needs to be something I can sing loudly to release the tension. By the time I get home, I’ve given myself permission to feel whatever the day brought up, and then I can be present for my family. My only rule: I must sit in the car singing as loudly as possible until the end of the song.

How do you remind yourself to rest when you feel like there’s always more to do?

I had to learn this the hard way. I realized I was modeling unhealthy patterns for my staff, essentially telling them through my actions that self-care wasn’t important. Now I’m intentional about taking time off and talking about it openly. I remind myself that if I burn out, I can’t serve anyone well. Rest isn’t selfish – it’s strategic.

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

My team – both our staff and our Board of Directors – is my greatest source of strength. We’ve created a culture where we can be honest about when we’re struggling. I also lean on humor – we’ve learned to find lightness even in dark moments. And frankly, the survivors themselves often teach me resilience. Watching someone rebuild their life reminds me why this work matters, even on the hardest days.

What’s something you’ve learned about yourself because of this job?

I’ve learned that I’m much stronger than I thought, AND also that strength doesn’t mean carrying everything alone. This work has taught me to lead from the back – to create space for others to shine and to trust that people support what they help create. I’ve discovered that my role isn’t to have all the answers, but to help create conditions where solutions can emerge.

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

I keep a small collection of thank-you notes from survivors in my desk drawer. Not for the praise, but because they remind me of the incredible strength of the human spirit. When I’m feeling discouraged, I’ll read one and remember that healing is possible, that resilience is real, and that this work makes a difference in ways I might never fully understand. When all else fails, there’s nothing that a Ding-Dong and a Dr. Pepper can’t cure!

How do you celebrate even the smallest successes?

We celebrate everything here – someone getting their GED, finding an apartment, their first day at a new job, even just having a day without nightmares. We might bring in donuts, give high-fives, or simply take a moment to acknowledge the courage it took. I’ve learned that celebration is part of healing – it helps people recognize their own progress and builds momentum for the next step.

What’s the most unexpected lesson a client or coworker has taught you?

A survivor once told me, “You can’t save me, but you can believe in me while I save myself.” That completely shifted how I understood my role. It taught me that real help isn’t about rescuing people – it’s about creating space for their own strength to emerge and honoring their expertise in their own lives.

When did you know that advocacy work was the right fit for you?

Like many people, my family has been impacted by domestic violence and sexual assault. But it wasn’t just personal experience that called me to this work – it was realizing that I could help create something different. When I started volunteering in 2015, I saw how the right support at the right moment could change everything. That’s when I knew this was where I belonged.

What motivates you to show up on the really hard days?

Knowing that someone might be making the hardest phone call of their life today, and that we’ll be here to answer it with compassion and expertise. Every day, people are choosing to reach out for help, and that takes incredible courage. I want to honor that courage by showing up as my best self.

What’s your go-to “pick me up” song or snack at work?

I have a playlist I call “Work Time” with everything from Aretha Franklin to current pop songs that just make me smile. And I always keep chocolate in my office – it’s amazing how sharing a piece of chocolate can create a moment of sweetness in a difficult conversation.

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Collaborative, authentic, and hopeful. I believe people support what they create, so I work to involve everyone in finding solutions. I try to bring my whole self to this work – including my sense of humor and my own learning process. And even on the hardest days, I hold onto hope because I’ve seen too many people reclaim their lives to believe healing isn’t possible.

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

I’m actually pretty introverted. People see me presenting to community groups or facilitating meetings and assume I’m naturally outgoing. But I need quiet time to recharge, and some of my best thinking happens in solitude. I’ve learned that being an effective leader doesn’t mean being the loudest voice in the room – sometimes it means creating space for others to speak.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.

"Ask an Advocate" - interview with Outreach Advocate Kristy Hughes

“Ask an Advocate” – interview with Outreach Advocate Kristy Hughes

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If you’ve ever had the chance to meet our Outreach Advocate, Kristy, you know just how special she is. For the past year and a half, Kristy has been a vital part of the Options team, connecting with survivors in our community with compassion, understanding, and an open heart. Her calm, genuine presence helps survivors feel seen and supported – it’s no surprise that many request to work directly with her.

As our Outreach Advocate, Kristy spends her days meeting people where they are (literally and emotionally) to help survivors navigate the challenges of healing and rebuilding. Whether she’s sitting down one-on-one with a client or representing Options at community events, Kristy approaches every interaction with empathy and a drive to make sure survivors know they aren’t alone.

She also leads our Ellis County Support Group, which she’s infused with her signature creativity and warmth. Kristy is always finding new ways to keep the group engaging – from meaningful discussions to activities that help survivors connect, reflect, and grow together. Her dedication has helped create a space that feels safe, empowering, and full of community. Which, is exactly what healing should feel like.

The month may be winding down, but stay tuned for more a few more staff highlights in the coming weeks as we continue to shine a light on the incredible advocates who make our work possible.

Now, let’s get into Kristy’s interview! 

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

Kristy Hughes. Outreach Advocate. I have been with Options for 17 months. I have worked evenings and weekend as a shelter advocate and am now in our hays office.

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

When I am told that I am a comfortable and safe place to discuss hard things. 

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

I lean on nature and exercise when work feels overwhelming. Also, taking a drive to see my grandbabies works wonders every time. 

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Working as an advocate fills me with joy and a sense of purpose.  If I could describe my advocacy style in three words, it would be “I get it.”

If your younger self could see you now, what would they be most proud of?

If my younger self could see me now, she would be most proud of the fact that I am turning all of those past “why is this happening” into “because I have been there I can truly relate and be helpful.”

How do you remind yourself to rest when you feel like there’s always more to do?

Reminding myself to rest even when I feel like there is so much to do comes fairly easy. Knowing that we cannot do for others if we have not done for ourselves helps to keep a healthy balance of work time and leisure/rest time. 

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

One thing my coworkers may not know about me is as a child I always dreamed of becoming a police officer. I was a totally tom boy growing up in Mississippi playing cops and robbers with my cousins.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governo

"Ask an Advocate" - interview with Director of Client Services Meagan Zampieri-Lillpopp

“Ask an Advocate” – interview with Director of Client Services Meagan Zampieri-Lillpopp

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If you ever need something figured out – whether it’s a grant report, a staff training, or the answer to an oddly specific question – Meagan is your person. For the past 3.5 years, she’s led as Options’ Director of Client Services, guiding best practices, supporting staff, and keeping partnerships strong (all while probably thinking about cats or tiny things).

Before joining Options, Meagan was a librarian, which makes sense when you realize she’s the kind of person who loves both knowledge and fun – but doesn’t mind a little chaos now and then. Outside of work, she’s a lover of books, puzzles, and all things small and delightful.

Meagan’s leadership keeps the pieces of our organization fitting together.

Let’s dive in to her interview!

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

Meagan Zampieri-Lillpopp, Director of Client Services, 3.5 years

What does a “day in the life” of your role actually look like, and how does it change from day to day?

Every day is different! My main role is head of operations, programs, and services, which encompasses staffing, advocacy, community awareness activities, and outside partnerships. Frankly, it’s too much for one person. I process a lot of email and run a lot of meetings. I do get to step in as an advocate regularly, which is a really rewarding. Most of my time is spent advising, coaching, and assisting staff to meet their goals with clients or projects.

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

Outsiders think that I’m rescuing people all the time. People rescue themselves. I just get to help sometimes.

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

How much I cuss (not at people, don’t worry). It’s cool though. I have a sign. Most folks appreciate that they are allowed to speak freely as well. Cussing can be very cathartic… and I think it’s really important that folks be allowed to tell their stories in the way they truly feel them.

Office interaction: “$#@&!!” – gasps – “OH!! I’m sorry!”
“Oh, nah. Don’t worry about it.” -points to sign-

How do you remind yourself to rest when you feel like there’s always more to do?

I am constantly telling people to go home. I am also the worst about going home.

I think the thing I do well though is that I know that I work a lot, so I also have zero guilt when I do need to rest more or when I have planned my rest in advance. I take my lunches most days. I book my therapy and massage and medical appointments and keep them, and I encourage everyone to do the same. We never know when we will be called upon to give just one more drop of compassion, so we have to keep our cups full. If I’m working late, it’s because I have the capacity, the interest, and a deadline.  If any one of those is missing, I pretend I’m talking to a member of my staff and say, “Go home, Meagan. Go-onnow… GIT!”

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

I talk to my boss. She’s usually able to take something off my plate or help me chunk it up into smaller bites so that it can be accomplished in the time I have. OR, talking it out reinvigorates or helps me get the task list into a manageable framework so that I can ask for help. Most of the time, when I’m overwhelmed it’s because I don’t know where to start or what I can delegate so everything looks bigger than it is.

Do you have a “comfort item” at work (a photo, snack, playlist, etc.) that helps you get through the day?

My office is literally a maximalist’s dream room of comfort items. I have pillows, art, plants, corny buttons, toys, essential oil diffusers, crayons & colored pencils, coloring books and books for reading for fun and books for reading for professional growth, embroidery supplies, vintage toys (that are just for looking), a drink station, stickers, sometimes candy, 1000 favorite pens, cards for many occasions, presents that I picked up for folks throughout the year, 101 tiny cheeses, 30 miniature books, and 10 tiny wine bottles, one of which is from Captain Jean-Luc Picard’s family vineyard. But the most special things are the notes and cards I’ve gotten from children or family or staff.

Capt PIcard’s wine and cheese and book buffet (et al).

And then there’s Bear (and Fonzie). I’m 100% a cat person, but these are some fantastic dogs.

Bear, the Best Boy.
Thank you notes from Roosevelt’s 5th Graders
Gigi’s note to me c. 2019 when I worked at the library.

If your younger self could see you now, what would they be most proud of?

I haven’t moved in over five years. I have health insurance. I have a car? (I didn’t get my license until I was 21, so that’s kind of a shocker.)

I didn’t have the most stable upbringing… We moved a lot and never had money, meaning the bills weren’t always paid and most of our moves were because we couldn’t afford rent. I didn’t realize how much energy it took to move through the world poor, and now that I’m not struggling to pay to survive paycheck-to-paycheck, I get to spend that energy on so many other good things. I’m grateful every day for the privileges I have now in all the ways they exist… I never imagined I would be this safe.

Also, since I was elected to office… There are SO MANY PEOPLE who can SAY & SPELL MY WHOLE NAME. That’s amazing.

What’s one thing you wish every survivor could hear and truly believe?

We have a Survivor Bill of Rights in one of our support group curriculums… And I have seen folks deeply impacted by every one of the statements on the list. Each one hits different on any given day.

I want everyone to believe every line. And maybe they all come down to this one:

I have the right to be believed and valued.

There are a lot of things that keep us from getting help, but the emotional toil of convincing everyone that I deserve help, that it really is that bad, that I’m not making it up, and that I’m important enough to help…  I think we have to work way too hard to convince ourselves first that being hurt (emotionally, physically, psychologically, sexually) isn’t normal or expected in life.

I don’t know how I would have made it out myself if my friends hadn’t believed me in the first place. There were only two times I had bruises, after all. But they did believe me. They helped me. They acted as shields and distractions and gave me their time and real dollars. My real friends—the people who stand by me still—believed me and still show me how much they value me. And for me, that set the standard I would use for my future while my son and I made our new life together that I’m so proud of.

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

You know what? I don’t know. And I’m not a guesser.

Notes from my staff: MZL? If she doesn’t know the answer to something she’ll tell you she doesn’t know. But what she does know, is a lot about cheese.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.

"Ask An Advocate" - interview with Weekend Shelter Advocate Justine Rigby

“Ask An Advocate” – interview with Weekend Shelter Advocate Justine Rigby

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Our weekend advocates hold a truly special place within Options. While most of the world slows down for the weekend, their work keeps going –  often for 48 hours straight. These advocates are the heartbeat of our shelter during those quiet hours, ensuring survivors continue to have safety, care, and compassion no matter the day or time.

Because many community resources are closed on weekends, our weekend staff often have to think creatively and act resourcefully to meet survivors’ needs. Their work requires patience, flexibility, and a deep understanding of what it means to truly show up for others.

This week, we’re excited to introduce Justine, one of our dedicated Weekend Shelter Advocates. In her 9 months with Options, Justine has already shown incredible empathy, adaptability, and heart – qualities that make her an essential part of our team and a strong support for survivors.

Let’s get to know Justine! 

What is your name, title, and how long have you worked at Options?

Justine, Weekend Shelter Advocate, about 9 months.

What does a “day in the life” of your role actually look like, and how does it change from day to day?

Being a weekend advocate at the shelter, I work a 48-hour shift that is from Friday at 11PM to Sunday at 11PM. Generally, with a 2nd advocate, whose presence assures that one of us is able to respond to emergency calls, provide transportation if needed & to deliver meals to hotel clients if any of those are needed, as well as take breaks. There are 2 offices in the shelter where advocates can sleep & take care of phone calls, private conversations & documentation. There are times when all of the survivors in shelter and the phones stay quiet & days where one, the other, or both are non-stop.

What’s one thing people misunderstand most about your job?

That all our services are completely free, confidential & voluntary. A lot of people aren’t aware of that until we tell them.

If someone shadowed you for a day, what would surprise them the most?

How personable our services are for each of our employees and survivors. We REALLY care, this isn’t JUST a job for a lot of us.

What’s the hardest part of saying goodbye to a survivor who’s moving on?

Knowing that I will not be able to get updates on their success.

What’s a small “win” that makes you feel like the work you do really matters?

When a survivor opens up to me, they share their story & thank me for what I have done for them. A lot of them don’t get to know the feeling I experience when I hear those words. All I have ever wanted to do is HELP people.

What’s a behind-the-scenes moment you’re proud of but few people would ever know about?

Having private conversations with survivors & finding a common interest that creates a real connection. For just those moments, it’s like we’re both able to let our guards down, forget all of our struggles & trauma and just live in the moment.

One of my favorite moments during a shift is when I decided to go get Daylight Donuts & bring enough back to shelter to share with my coworker and the survivors in shelter. One of the survivors literally CRIED because they had never had a FRESH Donut. Which in turn made me cry.

What’s a ritual or habit you use to transition out of “work mode” after a tough day?

Sometimes I just jam to music on my way home. Others, I ride in silence. When I get home I look up at the stars and/or moon and take some deep breaths before I go into my home.

Who or what do you lean on when the work feels overwhelming?

There are SO many people who are available. We always have a 2nd advocate on shift with us, plus an on-call supervisor we can reach out. Every one of my coworkers and supervisors are beyond welcoming to listen and officer assistance. Also, I am able to step into the office and video chat my fiancé & almost 2-year old daughter.

What’s something you’ve learned about yourself because of this job?

Honestly, that I second guess myself and my abilities way too much.

What’s the most unexpected lesson a client or coworker has taught you?

It truly is the smallest things & moments in life that make all of the difference in the world.

When did you know that advocacy work was the right fit for you?

Almost immediately! I have never truly known what I wanted to do, but I have always known that I wanted to help people.

What’s one thing you wish every survivor could hear and truly believe?

That they DESERVE kindness & happiness.

What’s your go-to “pick me up” song or snack at work?

Cherry Pepsi!

If you could describe your advocacy style in three words, what would they be?

Empathetic, sincere & passionate.

What’s one thing about you that your coworkers might not even know?

That I am a survivor of sexual and domestic violence. This organization is so thoughtful, caring and non-judgmental, which makes it easy to share with others, so I have already done so.

If you need any additional information, have a question, or a concern, feel free to reach out to Options at our 24-hour toll-free helpline 800-794-4624. You can also reach an advocate via text by texting HOPE to 847411 or click 24-Hour Chat with Options.

This grant project is supported by the State General Fund for Domestic Violence and Sexual Assault, sub-grant number 25-SGF-07, as administered by the Kansas Governor’s Grants Program. The opinions, findings, conclusions or recommendations expressed in this publication are those of the author(s) and do not necessarily reflect the views of the Office of Kansas Governor.